Reading the body language is more about perceptions and instincts, rather than thinking; that is why how we look and the way we pose is a source of info for the ones we meet since they express our mood, confidence, personality traits, you name it. After watching some people, going around the web and actually testing some on myself, some interesting pointers come out that may help you project a strong, confident, capable attitude... If you have your own, don't hesitate to add it in the comments!
Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Remember what mom told you when growing up "don't slouch!" It is perhaps one of the most important traits of communicating confidence. If you are a sloucher, get over it, and focus on push your shoulders back when standing and walking (don't over do it, please). This sole thing can make a difference in how you are perceived!
Don't cross your arms when talking.
This is a protective posture and you'll be seen as someone that is on guard, or worst: nervous. Crossing your arms doesn't look friendly, open and of course, confident. Relax, avoid crossing your arms and by all means
Avoid your pockets!
When we put our hands in our pockets either we're uncomfortable or unsure, or at least that's the impression people have when they see you stuffing your hands in your pants. Also it shows nervousness -- why? We tend to hide our hands when we're nervous. Showing your hands (and your palms) reflects confidence and that you have nothing to hide. Plus, it encourages you to slouch (and we go to the first issue again). If you feel the urge to do it, try to put them on your hips -- expresses more confidence.
The way we look, what we project, is the message we communicate to the rest of the world; eyes, hands, posture, attitude: what do you say? More writing on this soon... comments are welcome!
:: Shaken not stirren
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